Many difficult things have happened to us throughout life. Things might have happened to us when we were too young, in a threatened situation or just about any degree of trauma. God tells us He will always be with us and help us to overcome any situation. God gives us tools to mend any situation.
The book, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, is a possible tool to help with difficult times and excellent tools to live by as well. A basic synapses of the book is that we make agreements with ourselves, some good, some not so good. Many times when the agreement is made, it is because it is forced or possibly, an unconscious one. An example might be of a very young girl/boy being told constantly by classmates and parents that he/she is overweight. An agreement can be formed with that information and stay with that person through adulthood. That agreement needs to be smashed or a number of possible negative consequences may form.
The agreements can also help us live better and more pleasing lives for God.
- The first agreement is to be impeccable with your word. To speak with integrity and to say only what you mean. Avoid using words to speak against yourself or others. Use the power of the word in the direction of truth and love.
- The second agreement is not to take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you wont be the victim of needless suffering.
- The third is never to make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as possible to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can transform your life.
- The last agreement is to do your best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy or sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
Whatever your situation may be, these agreements can be used to break old ones and create new ones.
– Beth Schnabel